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From the Heart

There is something that happens in community when people share from their heart. Spoken with truth and love about today’s For Real Life experiences, dreams and celebrations. Bonnie shares dreams, hopes, removing labels and how she is stepping outside of the box to connect and be connected with others.


The Life Skill Everyone Needs Every Day

It’s been a journey these last couple of weeks as we get ready for an out of state move.  I will have to say that every life skill that I’ve learned is being put to the test.  But this one skill I have used over and over again the last couple of weeks.  The life skill of forgiveness.  Forgiveness crosses all areas of life and using forgiveness to keep moving forward is right up there with being grateful every day.

Stress can bring on so many feelings that keep us trapped in a state of unforgiveness.  It’s the little things that begin to grate on our nerves.  Practicing forgiveness daily creates gratefulness and moves you forward.

5 Ways That Forgiveness Helps You Move Forward

  1. Forgiveness releases responsibility.  You can only be responsible for yourself.  Forgiving yourself and others is also a moment to surrender what we can’t control and accept responsibility.

  2. Surrendering to the fact that you are not in control gives you peace of mind.  When you realize that only God can control the final outcome of whatever is going on in your life, there is a sense of peace that can sweep through you.

  3. Peace of mind brings on things like a good night’s sleep.  It releases endorphins and gives you room to think about hope for all the good possibilities for the future.

  4. Hope is a good place to be.  Hope creates joy and joy encourages forgiveness.  When you are joy filled it’s almost impossible not to forgive.

  5. Forgiveness is more about you than the other person.  Holding on to past hurts is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.  It eats at you and holds you captive.  If it is you that you need to forgive, remember you are the only one who can release yourself.

Take a Risk and Move Forward by Forgiving Yourself Today

It feels risky to practice forgiveness.  Especially if you truly feel like someone has hurt you.  I’m not saying that you minimize the seriousness of whatever has happened.  What I am saying is keeping a hardened heart of unforgiveness only hurts you in the end.

When it’s me that I need to forgive, I remember that I have choices.  Those choices could either put me in situations that aren’t good or move me forward in positive ways.

What Forgiveness Step are You Going to Take?

Whatever step you take it may feel risky.  I would say that if it doesn’t feel risky you may need to take a bigger step in the direction of forgiveness.  Looking for more direction on your next steps?  Contact me.

Bonnie Taylor