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From the Heart

There is something that happens in community when people share from their heart. Spoken with truth and love about today’s For Real Life experiences, dreams and celebrations. Bonnie shares dreams, hopes, removing labels and how she is stepping outside of the box to connect and be connected with others.



I was recently taken down with a back injury.  Nothing too serious but just enough to put me on the couch for a few days.  Although the physical pain was not fun, I really didn’t need to be laying around for days.  I can see now how the time was not just for my back, but it was for reflection time on mindset changes.  I wish that I didn’t need the physical pain because the mindset changes have their own source of pain.  But I didn’t get a choice in the matter so making lemonade out of lemons here is what I’m learning.


I’ve had quite a few changes in the last 10 months.  Leaving a job of 15 years, opened doors.  Started speaking internationally and bumped up my essential oil business to support my Morocco trips.  Learned how to be “retired” not really but at least on paper I’m at the age where that is possible.  Learned how to work from a home office and what true self-motivation looks and feels like.  Learned how to trust my gut, lead others and to be more flexible that I could ever had imagined.

Probably the most important thing I’ve been learning is to stop and listen for God.  He speaks to me in multiple ways.  Sometimes through people, through situations, through His word in the Bible and then of course in the quite moments when I least expect it, He will pop in with what seems like a loud megaphone shout.


It takes time to undo 15 years of working for an organization.  First, I loved my last job but secondly, I still needed to let go and trust my future.  You can’t move forward in life if you are still hanging on to the past.  Healing of the heart is required.  Healing in those small places where you thought you had everything figured out but found out, in reality, life is quite different.  Your heart gets attached to those old ways and letting go can hurt.  Even if letting go is for all the good things ahead.


It is in the letting go that you discover that your mindset needs to make a major shift.  Mindsets are interesting.  They are the limiting beliefs that we tend to accept as truth for our life.  But the truth is, limiting beliefs is what keeps us stuck in the box and keeps that voice in our head telling us that life in the box is good, it’s comfortable, it’s safe.  I’m calling BS on that voice. 

One tiny little mindset change for me was knowing I could travel when I wanted to travel.  No need to ask for vacation time.  I could just go.  That was huge for me.  Another mindset change was what income and payday looked like.   The limiting belief was someone had to give me a paycheck.  Making the mindset change to developing a support network and running a full essential oil business I found out wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be.  These may seem little but as I was laying around these last few days, I realized how important it is to make little mindset changes.  Making the little ones, prepares you for bigger shifts when you are out of your box.


Mindset changes are an on-going process.  When you take a look at where you are at and where you want to be that takes a mindset change.  Stepping out of the box you have been stuck in requires trust and faith another mindset change.  What’s next for me is continuing to walk in faith, doing the next thing, and knowing that when I feel stuck it’s because I need to make a mindset change.  The stuck is a limiting belief that needs to go.  What limiting beliefs are holding you back?  Money, time, faith, self-doubts, whatever it is, this is your time to make those mindset changes and drop the limiting beliefs that are keeping you from living the life that you were meant to live.  What mindset changes do you need to make?  Contact me, I’d love to hear from you. 

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