For Real Life

From the Heart

There is something that happens in community when people share from their heart. Spoken with truth and love about today’s For Real Life experiences, dreams and celebrations. Bonnie shares dreams, hopes, removing labels and how she is stepping outside of the box to connect and be connected with others.



I sometimes wonder if I’ve been waiting for the wrong things to happen.  Even when we think we know what we are supposed to be doing with our lives, we can still get it wrong.  There comes a point in time when we just need to pause and wait.

This week has been a time of pausing life and waiting for the next thing to present itself so that I can take the next step towards my goals.  There is nothing easy about pausing and waiting.  It’s an act of self-control and self-will to tell yourself to stop, be calm and do nothing.  For me it seems impossible.  I’m a doer.  I see what needs to happen and I go and do it.  That’s not always a good thing.  It can land me in the middle of a mess and then I find myself undoing a situation or apologizing to someone.  So as much as I hate the waiting, I’m doing just that this week and maybe for the next couple of weeks.

Forced to Press Pause

I had spent the last several days playing with my grand-daughters it was wonderful.  We don’t get to see them often and spending time was such a blessing.  It also landed me in this pause and wait mode today.  I need to let my body recover.  My body is telling me it’s time to rest.  Learning to listen to either your body telling you to slow down or that small quite voice telling you to take a break is so important.  This was a lesson that I’ve had to learn over and over again.  It takes practice and self-control to listen and then respond.  I also always learn something new whenever I’m having to wait. 


Pausing and waiting feels like an obstacle to me.  My mind still runs ahead and wants to do so much more.  Anything keeping me from moving toward my goal feels like a huge obstacle and I’m not the most patient person.  But obstacles have a purpose.  I don’t always know what the purpose is, especially when I’m in the middle of the trying to go around an obstacle.  I’m usually just frustrated and wanting to continue to move. 

Here’s the funny thing about obstacles.  We aren’t meant to go around them.  We are either to wait for the obstacle to be removed or we are to walk through them.  My current obstacle is one that I need to walk through.  I do this knowing that it’s just an obstacle not the end of the road.  Some obstacles open up new pathways.  Waiting to see what is next can show you the next step and it may be a step that you would never had considered.  The important thing to remember is obstacles are not ends, just adjustments to how you are moving toward your goals.

Use What You Learn

What you learn is so important.  One of the most recent learnings for me is when my body needs to rest God creates the opportunity to give me space and time to refresh.  My schedule this week was packed out and then I had cancellation after cancellation.  I didn’t see that as a bad thing.  It’s what I need, and God cleared my calendar, so I could do some self-care this week.  Don’t ignore the pauses and waiting in your life as obstacles that you have to conquer.  Use those times to observe the obstacle in our life.  Realize if they are self-imposed or beyond our control or both.  Lessons from running into obstacles will serve you well in the future.  For me this obstacle has shown me that God is still in control.  I don’t have to do everything, I don’t have to be everything for everyone.  Rest, relax and refresh, it’s time.